Welcome to the website. We have so much we want to share. Please take a look at the blog which covers a lot of topics. If you have any queries, comments or questions please feel free to leave them. You may help someone else in the process.

You may also find the book To Blossom and Back useful. The book sheds light on The emotions and thought processes during an affair. It covers the highs and the lows. 

If you have any questions or comments, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.

Cherry isolated. Cherry on white. Cherri
Image by Mohamed Ajufaan
Cozy old street in Trastevere in Rome, I
Holding Hands


Life is nought but lest we fall and learn from our mistakes

To feel and question at the same time, having compassion and a sense of connection.

This is a true story with strong romantic encounters and all the elements that ensues love and the twists love creates.

It is an accurate account of pure passion and obsession (addiction).

The story is explanatory and genuine.

It describes emotions and the desire in a very factual way.

Feeling truly torn and lost is not a pleasant place to be, but it can be worth it in various ways, This is a written record, which highlights the pain and learning curves that are found along the way.

The book describes all those involved, it brings alive characters as they truly are.

We enjoys life, but sometimes we get it wrong. However, we do learn, 

Check out the blog for great insights



Feel free to click on these links for more useful sources and websites that help during and after the affair


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Take the first step of your journey and discover "The 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity."


A cognitive counsellor is a really good idea. They help you think about situations in a whole different way. I found my councillor Julia was a life savior. So pleased I found her.



I’d love to hear from you! Please feel free to get in touch with any questions or comments and I will get back to you as soon as possible.

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