Welcome to my website. I’m thrilled you’re here. I have so much I want to share and am excited to introduce you to my book. This book sheds light on emotional affairs. The highs the lows. If you have any questions or comments, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.

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Cozy old street in Trastevere in Rome, I
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My Journey

This book was a challenge to write. It was painful, heart-breaking, heart-warming and awkward. To Blossom and Back is like nothing I have ever experienced or written in my life, sometimes I ask myself if I even had the life qualifications to deal with the situation. I clearly did not.
To feel and question at the same time as well as having compassion and a sense of connection. This is a true story with strong romantic encounters and all the elements that ensues love and the twists love creates. It is an accurate account of pure passion and obsession if you like, or rather addiction. The story is explanatory and genuine. It describes emotions and the desire in a very factual way.
It has been a real challenge for me personally to write this because it is hard for me to re-live due to all the emotion involved. Feeling truly torn and lost was not a pleasant place to be, but it was also worth it in various ways, I wrote the book as a written record, which will highlight the pain and learning curves that I found along the way. The book describes me and all those involved, it brings alive our characters as we truly are.
I am just an everyday hard-working person that enjoys life, but sometimes I get it wrong. However, I do learn, and I do like to share. I Worked in the NHS UK as a senior manager for ten years before I moved to New Zealand with my wife and my two Jack Russel's I love my dogs and my wife 😊



Other sources and websites that help during and after an affair


We'll Help You Survive and Thrive After Infidelity
Take the first step of your journey and discover "The 10 Most Important Lessons about Surviving Infidelity."


A cognitive counsellor is a really good idea. They help you think about situations in a whole different way. I found my councillor Julia was a life savior. So pleased I found her.



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The Affair Outcome

An affair is more than just an affair. There are severe consequences from such a deep and meaningful act. One of the outcomes is stress,...

Sex over rationalisation

Rationalisation is a wonderful thing. We Rationalise heaps of stuff on a daily basis. From crossing the road, what should we eat, shall I...

Let me invite you into my world...

A warm sunny Sunday afternoon. I laid on the hammock looking up into the deep blue sky. She came out. I heard her. I invited her to join...

Relationship suffers due to closed door.

Yes, we all need to earn money. We have bills to pay and we want nice things. House, cars, big TVs, phones, iPad etc. the list goes on...


If you have a particular question on an affair, your side or theirs please let me know. Just ask. I will respond with some thoughts.

10 tips to making a good decision.

1. Mind over matter is a good guide. You know what is right! But the flesh is weak. Be strong, be determined and let the mind win, not...

Sex vs Love

My Dad can be a wise chap at times (amongst his unfiltered self). But his response to my being in love was this: “The Greeks have many...

Marriage on last legs!

My marriage was 99% over. She had certainly had enough. She was broken and she had now decided that she would not continue. She was...

A world of no escape

It is very hard to escape these days. With so much connectivity and contact options. Facebook, Messenger, WhatsApp, Snapchat.... Just to...

Why do people stop asking?

One thing that has always puzzled me is, why people stop asking? Maybe they feel it is intrusive, or that it just re-opens old feelings....

The Greater Effects..

Easy to look at yourself and think about how an affair has been so dramatic on your life. It is easy to only think about yourself. The...

Some days thoughts overcome you.

No one understands the true thoughts of post affair. Why would they? There you are alone and trying to get on with life after making the...


Christmas is here and for many it will be another year of eating, drinking, socialising and family fun. The norm if you like. However,...

Inception deception perception

From nowhere came sorry, pain, lies and so much more. Where and how did this happen and happen to me? No one is faultless and no one can...

What is the fix?

Recovery is a battle. But worth it. But why try. Ok I will try and write this from the beyrayed point of view, so this should be...


After my affair I was always listening to lyrics in a different way. Or I was watching movies from a different angle due to what I had...